5 Steps to Reset after a Marriage Meltdown / Conflict. [caption id="attachment_52790" align="aligncenter" width="600"] 5 Proven Steps To Get Back Easily After A Relationship Meltdown[/caption] End Meltdown in Your Relationship! Are you tired of taking the brawl ride overnight or longer? Then read and follow these five tips to help you bounce back after any meltdown in your marriage.
We’ve all been there, done that. We’ve had a marital meltdown that left us woozy and wondering what our next step would be. I’ve written about this before, but felt compelled to write about it again since it is such a pertinent issue.I certainly wish it weren’t such an issue. I wish all of us experienced day in, day out marital bliss. I wish the wild-eyed, early days of courting would last forever. But, alas, they do not. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not about to give you the “Passionate Love Can’t Last Forever” speech. I actually believe passionate love can last forever. I believe love can grow deeper, stronger, even more passionate with every passing year. But, I digress. Sandy and Thomas came to The Marriage Recovery Center much like other couples seeking assistance. Bearing down on 40 years of age and 20 years of marriage, they were the stereotypical couple seeking my help. They were reasonably settled financially, had a solid faith background, a nice home and three children of whom they were proud. “But, when we melt down,” Thomas said, “we have a hard time getting back up. We don’t melt down that often, but when we do, it lasts for days.” I asked for more information, wanting to focus at this point on how they handled the post-meltdown blues. “Tell me not only what happens leading up to the meltdown, but how you handle the meltdown once it has occurred.” “We don’t do anything,” Sandy said. “We avoid each other and wait a few days to begin talking again.” “Well,” I continued, “you actually do do something. You wait, avoid each other and I presume you harbor grudges?” “Oh yes,” Thomas said. “We sure do harbor grudges. At least I know I do.” “So, we’ve got to change this pattern,” I said. “We’ve got to change several things: avoiding each other, harboring grudges and failing to reset and make good contact with each other.” “That would be nice,” they both said. Here are a few additional ideas for resetting your marriage after you’ve had a marital meltdown: John 16:33) Notice that John has an optimistic perspective—“take heart,” he says. The Lord comes into our lives to give us both hope and peace. SEE THIS: How to avoid fight in any relationship The Marriage Recovery Center on this website. You’ll find videos and podcasts on emotionally destructive marriages, codependency and affair-proofing your marriage. ]]>