I was done. Finito. Tapped out. I felt like a single parent. When my husband wasn’t traveling for work, he was at work. I was already raising the kids and doing life by myself. I felt like he was only a paycheck. It wouldn’t make much difference if he physically brought it home or sent it in the mail. I complained to a girlfriend. She asked me a
As a parent, you pray for your daughter often. After all, you desire the best for her. What about the man she married? Are you praying for him? When a man, whether young or more mature, saunters into your daughter’s life and whisks her across the beautiful threshold of marriage, you have the privilege of not only praying for your offspring, but also her husband. You have the honor of
My husband and I waited until our wedding day to kiss each other. Even among Christians, the simple statement, “We’re waiting!” was received with shock and at times, mockery. Waiting to kiss is definitely not normal. I chose to save my kiss for my wedding day long before I met my husband. I didn’t do it because Josh Harris, my parents, or my church said so. I didn’t even choose it for spiritual reasons
There’s an idea fairly common in our culture about the woman’s mind. Television shows, magazines, movies, and songs make reference to this great unknown–what does a woman want? What is she thinking? Men seem perplexed by the complexities of our spaghetti minds. You’ve heard that term, right? Men’s minds are like waffles; compartmentalizing thoughts into boxes. Women’s minds are like spaghetti; our thoughts connecting all over the place.
Sometimes I think people outside the faith think we’re nuts. We take a topic, like attraction and lust, and draw an imaginary line in the sand. Then, we criticize those who cross it even if they had no idea it was even there. We somehow justify it by whatever additional regulations we put on it, beyond what God said, because we’ve inferred things from the Bible and assume
Years ago, when I was much younger, 22 to be precise, I was involved in the restoration of a historic church building. It had been left derelict for years. To see it returned to its original glory as a place of worship was amazing. After the restoration was completed, I would visit the church on my way home from work. I loved the quietness and solace that God’s house provided.
It was the middle of the morning frenzy. You know, those crucial moments when you’re trying to pack the gym bag, collect the dress clothes, unearth the laptop, and still make it out the door on time. This particular morning things were less than smooth. We usually take turns having this kind of morning, and today it was my husband’s turn. So I asked him, “What can I
We have all wished we could simply rid ourselves of some challenging habit. Perhaps it has to do with troubling eating habits, procrastination pertaining to work or failing to follow through on important resolutions. Whatever your “stuck point” seems to be, breaking an entrenched habit is important. Changing a habit is harder than we might think. Letting go of a long-term pattern of behavior can be difficult at
Having a morning routine is like an anchor for my day. But all too often I’m content skipping what matters most: time with God. If I oversleep or grab my phone too quickly, I’ll lose track of time and get caught up with whatever tasks are on my plate for the day. I may read a verse somewhere online or say a half-hearted prayer, but it’s never as focused or
Having trouble getting your mind wrapped around all the blogging jargon? Well with our back to blogging school series, we are here to clear up some of the confusion. Today we pick up from Blogging A to Z Part 1 to cover more essential blog vocabulary every blogger should know. No time to read the full article? Grab your free PDF here The Blogging F’s Favicon – a small icon you
Whenever one sees a marriage fall apart due to adultery, one of the first things one hears is, “And I thought they were so happy!” Often, we tend to assume that couples torn asunder by an affair must be secretly in felt turmoil for years. More importantly, we assume that those of us who are happily married are then protected from the same crisis. In a provocative new
Like most things in life, marriages are not static. It may feel like there are times when we settle into comfortable seasons, but marriages aren’t like McDonalds’ chicken nuggets. If we ignore them for a week, they will not look the same when we come back. Every marriage is growing stronger or weakening. There is no exception. Marriages grow because the husband and wife are growing. Our marriages
“The mission was helping people, the reality, however, felt more along the lines of self-punishment,” said the woman with a season of angst displayed on her face. She had set out to do what God placed in her heart and soul–help people, as many people as she could. Lea wanted to be the voice of those who could not find their own. Being a Christian woman, she wanted to stand
While there are many tools useful to sustaining your marriage, there is one tool you must have in your toolbox if you are going to be successful in your marriage: commitment. Of course, love, trust, compassion and grace are critical as well, but commitment is mandatory for a loving relationship. Why do I place such importance on commitment? The story of Jake and Lisa will illustrate the
Shares 271 A few years back, Selena and I were thinking about moving to Dallas for school. It’s a big decision so we decided to visit for a week. During our stay, a few things happened: God made it abundantly clear that we were NOT supposed to move there. We discovered how cold Dallas can get (temperatures in the mid-20s and gusts of wind over 30 mph) We experienced how brutal it
SAVE A COPY TO READ LATER – DOWNLOAD THE PDF >> CLICK HERE Back to school already? It’s official friends, school is in full swing. Do you remember learning your ABC’s? As a wee child, we had no idea just how essential those alphabets would be in our lives. That quirky little alphabet song and those seemingly unrelated letters helped us to form words and then to construct sentences. For
When you can’t see God’s hand, trust His heart. This quote hangs on my wall as a constant reminder that God is always working, even when it seems He is completely silent. So often, I hear others complaining about God’s silence, wondering where He is and why He is not answering their prayers. I understand. I’ve been there…many, many times. I cried out to God as
Shares 785 Recently I walked out to our deck and began flailing my arms uncontrollably. I’m positive I looked like an idiot. Why, you ask? Two words: spider web. As I stepped outside I felt that familiar, sticky feeling all over my arms and face. The more I moved, the more I felt it. In about half a second I transformed from a calm, collected, adult man into full-on, no-dignity,
Perhaps as many as ninety percent of those who get divorced confess that one reason for the breakup of their marriage was the unbearable loneliness of living together but being far apart. The reason a person neglects his or her spouse or family, contributing to loneliness within a marriage, are numerous. We cannot chart these reasons; but a number of things happen as a result of this neglect, and
Like any other young woman, we all can get down on ourselves sometimes. It’s easy in this world to see only your hardships and flaws, and even easier to believe you’re not great. As women, we can’t let these negative feelings bring us down. Trust and believe that God has a bigger and better plan for you. You have the potential to be great! You have to be your own
Offering an apology for wounds you have committed can be tricky business. There are times when it may seem like nothing you say is good enough to receive forgiveness. “I’m always saying ‘I’m sorry,’” one man said to me recently. “She just seems to hold onto grudges forever.” “Offering an apology can be challenging,” I suggested. “Sometimes it has to do with the way you share an
This month, my husband and I will celebrate five years of marriage. Our anniversary marks five years of laughter, five years of tears, five years of stupid (and not-so-stupid fights), and five years of making up. I love my husband. I can’t imagine life without my husband. But I’ve never considered this question until coming across a Desiring God article by John Piper: Has Marriage Become My
My husband and I had been married for 15 years and had three children, and were actively involved in the ministry of our local church. We were just another one of those “keen Christian couples” that are the heart of church life. You can imagine my shock when my husband told me that he felt he needed to cross dress. It was a bolt out of the blue.
Is anything too hard for the Lord? Genesis 18:14NIV “Are you pregnant yet?” this question might have pierced Sarah’s heart each month. The shame of barrenness was unbearable. God had promised her husband Abraham that he would be the father of nations with descendants more numerous than the stars in the sky. After waiting for many years, Sarah convinced Abraham to sleep with her maidservant Hagar to produce an heir. That was
I remember the moment I stood before my groom and recited my wedding vows. I certainly didn’t expect life to be perfect, but I assumed my marriage would be filled with more of “better” than “worse.” With stars in my eyes, and blissfully unaware of what the future would hold, I confidently vowed, “I take you, Jeff, to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from
Your husband struggles with attack daily. He may not talk with you about it, but the struggle is real. Sometimes the attack is from his own flesh. Sometimes it’s a natural consequence of living in a sinful world. And sometimes it’s a direct assault from his “adversary the devil [who] prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8, ESV). You can grab
Shares 782 Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which we cannot control.
The little girl’s eyes watched carefully as her parents met her kindergarten teacher for the first time. She noticed the handshakes and adult smiles. She heard her mother laugh when the teacher told a funny story about chasing a stray dog out of the classroom when setting up for the new year. Slowly, the little girl relaxed and moved closer to the teacher from behind her dad’s legs. “And this
I just finished a four day Men’s Intensive for men who have admitted to being emotionally abusive with their wives. Most came reluctantly; some came feeling outright resentment. “It’s a 50/50 problem,” one man said sharply. “Sure, we have our work to do,” another began, “but they have their work to do as well.” “My wife cuts me no slack,” yet another said. “I am supposed
I know how you feel. There are certain things your husband hates about church and you aren’t sure what to do about it. I know how you feel because my husband really didn’t like church for a while, either. And I’m married to a pastor! Twice over the past 25 years, my husband, Hugh, stepped out of his role as a senior pastor to recoup from burnout and